There’s something magic that happens when a couple lets go of tradition and leans fully into who they are. That’s exactly what happened at Ellie and Spencer’s wedding at the historic Thornewood Castle in Lakewood, Washington.
This wasn’t your average wedding day and that’s what made it unforgettable.
From the moment I arrived, the energy was different in the best way. The castle’s gothic charm, its sweeping staircases and ivy covered walls, felt like the perfect backdrop for a day that celebrated individuality, creativity, and love that isn’t afraid to be bold.
Let’s start with the dress: a black wedding gown. Yep, you read that right. Elegant, dramatic, and breathtaking, the bride’s choice was a reflection of her personality, romantic with a little edge, totally confident, and authentic. And guess what? It fit the atmosphere like it was meant to be.
The bridal party carried swords instead of bouquets or boutonnieres. Not for the aesthetic (though, let’s be honest, it looked incredible), but because it meant something to them. A nod to fantasy, to friendship, to the kind of storytelling that shaped who they are. These weren’t props. They were symbols of strength, connection, and the kind of fun that makes people lean in and say, “Okay, tell me more.”
The entire day unfolded like a well loved book with moody castle lighting, quiet candlelit moments, laughter echoing through old halls and there were no expectations here, just intention. Every detail was chosen because it mattered to them.
They ended the night with swing dancing. Not a rehearsed, stiff first dance but full out, joyful, “twirl-me-until-I’m-dizzy” swing. Shoes were kicked off. Guests rolled across the dance floor. It was the perfect way to close a day that felt more like a celebration of their whole story than just a single chapter.
If you’re planning your wedding and you’ve ever thought, “Can I really do something different?” the answer is yes. You can wear black. You can carry swords. You can dance your heart out. Your wedding day should be a reflection of you not a copy of what you think it’s supposed to look like.
The truth is, your guests (and your photos) won’t remember how traditional your centerpieces were. But they will remember how your day felt. And when your wedding is rooted in what makes you come alive, that energy lingers long after the last dance.
